What is “Catfishing” when talking about online dating? Catfishing is a term that describes a recently popular “outed” dating scam and is a term coined by “Nev” Yaniv Sh… Read More
In being a top 500 website on the internet, you’re going to get attention. And with over 21.5 million members (nearly half of the single community), IAC owned brand Match.com has gotten a lot of attention.
On Match.com, you answer questions about yourself (there can be 400 of them) and this allows yourself, as well as other members to be able to search for people with similar interests. There are two types of members, paid and free. Although having a paid service deters people from catfishing you as they’ll have to pay in order to do it, scammers often use sites like this to build instant trust with other users. A catfish or scammer on match.com will create a fake profile to either trick you into thinking they’re someone else, to steal money or both.
When a ‘catfisher’ creates their profile, they try and make it as generic of a profile as possible that will match with as many people as possible. They meet people and right away try and get the user away from the site so that they can close their profile. They start to act like they’re falling in love right away and say things like you two are meant to be together. Then they have something drastic happen where they try and ask for money.
A typical ‘catifsh’ or scammer on Match.com will create a profile that will have as many broad interests as possible. The ‘catfisher’ won’t take a formal stance either. Think of it almost the same way a politician position themselves if they are trying to appeal to as many people as possible.
Here is an example from a real life scammers profile page that we were able to help one of our clients avoid.
“I am the type of person who can dress up in a suit and tie come home and change into jeans and work boots and split firewood. I can watch and enjoy a Broadway show and then go down the road and watch a live band perform.”
You can see that the scammer doesn’t take a side. They try and appeal to anyone that way they have more potential matches which gives them access to more potential victims.
Most of the time, if someone is catfishing you on a dating site, there is usually a motive. Sometimes, and very rarely the motive will just be boredom or confidence issues. These people usually aren’t aggressive, they don’t ask you for money and oftentimes just want some companionship but, don’t help you find the one that you’re meant to spend your life with.
While Match.com does give some good advice, they aren’t thorough enough. Here are some good pieces of advice from people who deal with this every day.